Reflections on Past Missteps and Resolutions for the New Year

As 2017 hits and its dawns on me that 2008 was nine years ago, it reminds me how fast time has gone. Looking back on what my concerns were nearly a decade ago, even a few years ago, is somewhat embarrassing what my priorities were yet very refreshing to see how they have changed. If there is a consequence that is unavoidable as we age, it is that we all hold more baggage now, whether it is from bad relationships, selfish regrets, and difficult lessons; it is all a part of the human experience. Yet, for the darkness that each of us faces, there is an opposite light of pleasant memories and fulfilling choices that we reflect on too. The ocean of life is full of both rip tides and calm seas, and we continuously try to balance it all.

People view New Year’s Resolutions all wrong; we do not just set goals for ourselves but even more so chart a journey for ourselves to attain that goal. You have to fixate the necessary attention to accomplish what you set out to do, have the proper discipline to stay on course, and be willing to traverse the ups and downs that are an inevitable part of any odyssey. This year, I aspire to continue to become a man of value. I do not mean that in a monetary sense, but rather concentrate my efforts to bettering myself and the people around me. Whether if it is my actions and words toward others or my personal moral foundation that I am cementing, I strive for meaning and integrity with the decisions I make towards greater value.

If there is something I lacked in the past it was knowing my own self-worth. I used to have an unhealthy tendency to compare myself to others and doubt if I was worth anything at all. Yet, if I learned anything from my experiences, it is that it is up to us to be aware our thoughts. So I put an end to worrying about the opinion of others, stopped feeling sorry for myself, and made my intentions clear of what I truly desired. Once I acted upon that, everything else just fell into place.

This year, the year after, and so on, I intend to build on what I have now. I would be lying if I said I still didn’t have doubts, but the truth is that today I have more confidence in myself to deal with them. I accept the fact that I have more lessons to learn and will make mistakes to make in the future, but in this moment, I strive to be a man of dignity.